Modern Etiquette with Heather Wiese:
A Guide to Graceful Living

When many of us hear the word etiquette, it conjures memories of maternal lectures and a looming sense of “you’re doing it wrong.” I want to shift that mindset. There’s hidden treasure in understanding the social code—a way to move through life with grace, confidence, and ease. Real etiquette isn’t rigid or outdated. It’s empowering, deeply useful, and yes—surprisingly fun.

This is modern etiquette—a refined, approachable guide to living well today.

ETIQUETTE FOR WEDDINGS, PARTIES, & GALAS

The first impression of a wedding begins with the invitation. Understanding the traditional format for addressing and wording a formal wedding invitation sets the tone for an elegant event—and prevents common mistakes. This guide outlines everything from host line etiquette to RSVP phrasing with timeless style and modern clarity. Read the full guide →

ETIQUETTE FOR PROFESSIONALS

Mastering professional etiquette is essential for building strong relationships and making a lasting impression in the workplace. From email etiquette and meeting behavior to office communication and networking, this guide covers the most important workplace manners every modern professional should know. Read the full guide →

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Quote about etiquette by Heather Wiese, co-host of Social In Security, emphasizing the analogy of etiquette as a dance involving mutual respect and flow.
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Paper City magazine article titled "The Etiquette of Art Buying — How to Go From Newbie to Confident Collector." Features a small group photo from the 2023 Dallas Contemporary Gala, and an interior shot of a living room with a sofa and artwork.
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A Washington Post article titled 'Can I ditch my PreCheck-less partner at security?' by Natalie B. Compton includes an illustration of a person with white hair, seated, and a quote from etiquette columnist Heather Wiese about handling the situation at airport security.
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READ

…about Wedding Invitations and Reply Cards
Town & Country
Reader’s Digest
D Magazine
Times Herald-Record
Brides
WeddingWire

… about Awkward Wedding Situations and Kids
The Bell Tower
Reader’s Digest

… about Guest Etiquette, Gifting, and Hosting
D Magazine
The Knot
Town & Country
Southern Living

… about Thank You Notes & Travel
D Magazine
The Washington Post
Harper’s Bazaar
The Sun UK
The Washington Post

… about Heather
Style Blueprint
PaperCity
Speaking Engagements

…about Fashion
Authority Magazine

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WATCH

… about Social Media and Digital Etiquette FOXAccess Carolina
ABCYour California Life

... about Travel Etiquette
FOX Access Carolina

… about Summer & Beach Etiquette
FOXAccess Carolina

… about Wedding Guest Etiquette
FOX Access Carolina
ABCYour California Life

…about Professional Etiquette
FOX Access Carolina

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Screenshot of 'Your California Life' segment featuring Heather Wiese discussing dating etiquette. The text highlights the do’s and don’ts of getting to know someone new. Heather is identified as an etiquette expert and founder of Bell'INVITO.
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This is Woman’s Work @nicolemkalil

thERINpy with Erin Washington @Iamerinwashington

Life Check Yourself Podcast @lifecheckyourself @marnibattista

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